Take a moment to think about this:
What do you believe needs to happen for you to be happy, successful or loved?
Then ask yourself do you really want those things?
If you are not sure, then it is likely that what you think you need is the result of the conditioning from your life - the things you have been told you ought to pursue, or should go after, or the things that you are pursuing in order to hold on to your individual sense of self and who you are, even if those perceptions hinder what you truly want.
How many times have you heard people say:
"I need to get a promotion"
"I shouldn't do that - its not who I am!"
The problem with pursuing goals out of need is that it promotes a feeling of restlessness and inadequacy, because until you have succeeded in reaching your goal, there is an implication that somehow you weren't good enough to begin with. And often these goals don't materialise, because if you don't really want the things you think you need, you will experience an inner turmoil that will cause you to sabotage whatever action you take. If you do manage to fight the turmoil and reach these goals, then there can be an emptiness at the end and a feeling of "Is this all there is", which can be quite confusing.
Often one of two things happens - either you realise that you didn't need to do anything to be whole and you can start to feel good enough, or you rationalise that there must be something else you need and so the cycle begins again.
